Outnumbered, and Out Classed

In March of 2005, my spouse and I went from a comfortable man-on-man defense to the somewhat frenetic zone method when we welcomed our third-born child. Two years later, when our youngest arrived, we were hopelessly outnumbered. I don’t use the descriptor “hopelessly” lightly. We really needed to abandon all hope in the notion that […]

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The Ghost (dead space) Between Us

Over the course of long-term relationships, we have the unique human opportunity to not only learn a great deal about the other person but also many things about ourselves through the relational lens that person employs when interacting with us. Unlike an acquaintance or even a friend, when one shares decades of  his/her life’s experience with […]

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Girls are Still Dealing with This

The other day I had a conversation with someone whom I’ve always liked. We got to talking about my recent trip with my 14-year-old daughter. I explained our family’s tradition of offering our children a trip anywhere they’d like when they get to the place where they are between “childhood” and “adulthood.” I shared my […]

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Exercising Discretion

In writing, there is a constant pull and push between narration and disclosure. Time and time again I find myself writing “fiction” that comes from something I myself  or someone I know has experienced. This doesn’t mean that what I type into my laptop, under the guise of “current work in progress” is a direct […]

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One Thing Leads to Another

Anyone born between 1958 and 1973 probably can put those words, “One thing leads to another,” to music, especially if reminded of a band called The Fixx.  The band was at the height of its popularity right around the time I finished high school and, so far as I can tell, faded into happy obscurity. […]

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A Decades-In-The-Making Apology

I called my mother today to apologize for my “atrocious behavior.” (Those quotation marks are properly attributed as those were the words I used.) I caught her off guard. “What are you talking about?” she asked with genuine curiosity. I reminded her that several decades ago, I was 14 and a half. (I let this […]

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Drawing a Contrast

Being an adult requires lots of strengths. One strength that is expected of grown-ups, pretty much across the board, is that of self-reliance. The idea that you do what you can to the best of your ability and draw satisfaction from the experience. Whether it be work, parenting, or garnering a new skill, the “adult” […]

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