Although my children rejoice at the sight of the first snow accumulation of the year, for me there is something haunting and unsettling about it. In addition to the inevitable and unavoidable conclusion that winter has arrived, there is an accompanying feeling of dread. This foreboding is in two parts: macro and micro. The external, […]

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We have a strong cultural identity as Americans to each have the intrinsic ability to be our own best advocates. If something is a challenge, it is to be conquered. If adversity rears its head, it’s only a matter of self determination to persevere. When life knocks you down, you just pull yourself up by […]

Read more "Whose Bootstraps are Those?"

I wrote this one year ago: There comes a time in everyone’s life when contemplation about what really matters becomes an overarching obsession. Perhaps it’s the time of year: that cultural push to reflect on what one should be grateful for — being the week of Thanksgiving. Perhaps it’s the onset of cold weather: that […]

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For the last many months, I have been looking forward to “getting past” two big events: the national election and our annual fall town meeting. Both caused me to feel anxious; both caused me to feel hopeful–sort of like pregnancy. Recent Pregnancy #1: For me, the national election was, in one stark way, like my […]

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Apparently, that’s not the exact quote, though it is the one that popped into my mind this afternoon. The original quote is this: Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18, New International Version. So it appears as though I abbreviated the verse while keeping some essence of the meaning behind those words. And […]

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In our daily lives we are asked to share, update, and post. I translate those into “divulge, disclose, and publish.” Although we have the privilege of privacy, that is, no one forces anyone to use Facebook, Instagram, or tumblr, we oftentimes divulge and disclose with abandon to anyone with access to our profiles. Sometimes what […]

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With the endless distractions thrown in our paths, we are oftentimes put in situations where we tell ourselves that we are “too busy.” Most of us assign that explanatory phrase to our relationships with others. So while we have a desire to get together with our old pals from a book club that was in […]

Read more "For Those of Us Who Just Want to be Connected"

Dear Reader of These Words, Greetings and condolences. As of late, many of us have been feeling marginalized and pushed aside. While I believe it is immaterial what the cause is behind these isolating feelings, I don’t dismiss the existence of them. They’re there. I hear people talk of them. I see the residue left […]

Read more "For Those of Us Who Just Want to be Left Alone"

With Halloween coming soon, I find it no small coincidence that I would have been recently visited by a ghost. Not an actual spectre–for those of you who believe in these middle-ground dwelling creatures–but a metaphorical one. Over the course of long-term relationships, we have the opportunity to not only learn a great deal about […]

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Today marks one year since I began blogging. Some of you have noticed over the past year that I’m a bit of a numbers freak. I like numbers. They’re concrete, and I’m able to draw all sorts of conclusions and inferences from them. Having made the 1-year-mark, I thought I’d share these numbers: In the […]

Read more "Happy Birthday, Dear Blogpage: The Numbers"